Censored Conversations

Censored Conversations:

          I am a very reticent person and it causes my anger to build up sometimes. It kind of turns me into a ticking time bomb, I build up so much anger and frustration that one day it has to come out. 
           A prime example of this would be recently my boyfriend of two years and I got into a huge argument. We ended up going on a break to rethink our relationship and feelings for each other. This argument began because of hunting season. I work full-time and am in school full-time and when I am not in school or at work I am cleaning my house, cooking dinner, doing homework, or sleeping. I became very frustrated doing everything by myself when I have more responsibilities than he did yet I was doing everything in our apartment. I suppressed how I was feeling for two weeks because I did not want to start an argument and finally one day I confronted him since I hadn't expressed my feelings for so long I overreacted and caused a bigger argument than needed. 
           My preferred communication method now is expressing how I feel and talking through our problems to find an outcome that we both agree on. Today my boyfriend came home from hunting and immediately plopped in front of the television and placed his fast food bag on the coffee table after I cleaned the house all weekend. I initiated the conversation by telling him that we need to talk and I told him that I was upset at him for being gone all weekend and not helping me clean the house. He then said, "I helped, I brought you my step mom's shampooer." (Side bar: He knows how to make me tick). I expressed my anger and frustrations and we both hopefully resolved the issue by agreeing that he will help more throughout the week before he leaves for gun hunting this weekend. 

Personal Appearance

Personal Appearance Advertisement

• In my opinion this advertisement is expressing that this women is an object just like the beer. Her swimsuit blends into the bottle and she is very skinny and anatomically impossible. This advertisement is put out to attract middle aged men to the product and will attract them because of her defined jaw line, perfect make up, long neck, thin shiny legs, small waist, and she is pulling her top out to show off her chest. 
• The background behind the women is red which is supposed to be a very intense color, increases respiration rates, and raises blood pressure. It attracts men and enhances their moods. This advertisement illustrates that the potential buyer would be young, reckless, attractive, and in "the mood."
• Some nonverbal cues that she is illustrating would be that she is looking the camera in the eye and seductively. She is also pulling out her swimsuit invitingly and spreading her legs while lying against the bottle. 
• I do not agree with these kind of advertisements because they make women feel the need to be perfect and turn them into objects. 

Who I Am! AKA, Me!

Who Am I?

Candace Marie Pudder

That is my name, but who am I really? I am more than just my birth certificate. I am a girl, I am a fighter, I am a believer, I am a hero, I am an educator, and mostly I am important. Everyone has to have their own self-concept and that means that they have their own beliefs of themselves and others. Are you empathetic? Are you honest? Are you beautiful?

I grew up feeling life I wasn’t important or beautiful. I suffered from self-harming and depression. But I overcame it, I healed. I began to realize that my looks didn’t make me, I made myself. I worked hard in school, I made goals, I ate healthy and exercised, and I felt began to feel comfortable in my own skin. I stopped comparing myself to others and began to think of what I could do to better myself and what made me important. No, I am not perfect and I do still sometimes think, “Wow, I wish I had thin, straight hair,” or “I wish I was that smart.” But I realize that those girls could probably be wishing they had some of my traits. I have come to realize that I am Candace Pudder and that is all I want to be. (Well, unless I get married and change my last nameJ).

Why Am I Proud of Myself?

1.       I am head strong and do not let anyone tell me I deserve less than I do.

2.       I am independent, I am 20 and I control my own life and chose my own paths.

3.       I have a beautiful Angel up in Heaven that calls me “mommy.”

4.       I am working towards my dream of being a childcare owner and am about to graduate with my associate’s degree.

5.       I have had a very rough life and an unimaginable childhood but I made it own on my two feet and am grateful for everything I have now.

What Do I Believe In?

1.       I believe in second (or third, or fourth, maybe fifth) chances. I am not perfect, I do not get everything right the first time. I try not to hold grudges because if I did, I wouldn’t have anyone in my life. The people I love the most have put my down but I know they weren’t intentionally trying to hurt me.

2.       I believe in miracles. Yes, I have suffered through an abusive childhood, death of my father at the age of nine (suicide), my mother having Ovarian Cancer, being homeless, losing my baby, and now I am very low-income but I will make it through. I believe that if I do good in the world and continue to work toward my goals I will have a bright future with a healthy baby and a comfortable life.

3.       I believe that actions speak louder than words. I can tell someone that I care about them but who do they know I really mean it? I show my best friend I care about her by listening to her, bringing her twix (her favorite candy bar) when she’s sad, I watch her daughters when she needs me, I have moved her into my home while she was going through a crisis, and I am just there for her, even when she’s not necessarily there for me.

4.       I believe in the importance of Early Childhood Education because during the first three years of a child’s life their brain is developing the most and I am the person that helps shape that child’s entire life. I teach them necessary communication skills, such as using their words. I am also their routine, comfort and educator. I feel like I am important.

5.   I believe that everything is going to be OK.

http://www.hullhousemuseum.org/about-jane-addams/

Author:

Jane Addams Hull-House Museum

The University of Illinois at Chicago

This is a reliable source because it was written by the Jane Addams Hull-House Museum. The Museum is actually run in two of the original Hull Houses and is a very famous attraction in Chicago.

Communication is Life

Communication is life. That may sound strange but it is true. While you are in the womb your mother and father talk to you everyday. They tell you how much they love you and how perfect you are going to be. At sixteen weeks gestation you start hearing these sounds and begin to kick and turn and that's how you communicate with your parents. Once you are born you cry to make sure your needs are met and your parents talk to you everyday telling you are beautiful and smart you are. These are just some examples of communication. These are just some examples of life.

A top essential when communicating is being able to reduce nervousness, apprehension, and speaking anxiety. I have not mastered this skill and that is partially the reason I am taking an online oral, interpersonal class. Every time I talk in front of a crowd I feel sweat build up on my forehead, my ears begin to burn and my face become warm and red. Every time this happens I see people noticing and whispering to others about how red I am. I try to hide it by faking a yawn or looking away but it's already too late, my stage freight was noticed. Mastering this skill will help me be a more effective speaker in the end because I will not be nervous about being nervous and may put an end to my forgetfulness when I am speaking.

Another essential when communicating would be effectively using gestures, body language and eye contact. While speaking you may nervously swing your arms on sway back and forth. People do notice those actions and it could make it harder for people to get the full message because they are distracted by your movements and gestures. Eye contact is also an essential because it shows the audience that you are speaking to them not just the top of their heads or what type of shoes they have. Using consistent body language with what you are talking about is also a huge factor. If you are talking about a very happy, positive time in your life yet you look like you are about to fall asleep people may misinterpret what you are saying. 

Lastly an essential while communicating would be researching information for a group discussion or presentation. This is essential because it will help make speaking more natural and will ease some of the stress while speaking to others. The reason it will make it easier is because you will know what you are talking about and feel confident. You will feel confident because that is your specialty, you are the expert on the topic. I was a procrastinator in High School when I took my speech class and I would finish my speeches the day before it was due so I had to stay up all night and reread my note cards until I felt like I knew everything. That was stressful enough, let alone adding on public speaking in 8 hours. 

As of the moment I plan on becoming the owner of the next five star daycare in Wisconsin Rapids, which will definitely take time and a lot of money. Once I start my process of owning a daycare I will meet with many people including bankers, parents, future employees, sponsors and many more. I will need to have an intensive business plan drawn up and know exactly what I want to get where I want. I will need to learn to be confident and educated on every aspect of owning a business. This will help ease my stage freight and possibly get rid of my red face syndrome, it is not an actual thing just trying to be funny. I will need to use proper gestures, eye contact and body language when speaking to the people that will help make my dream become a reality. During this course I plan to further my writing and speaking skills so my dream is more realistic and easier to go after.